Why Do We Compare Ourselves to Others?
The age old question, why do we compare ourselves to others? In the 1950’s, psychologist, Leon Festinger developed social comparison theory, which states we can’t define ourselves independently but instead define ourselves in regards to others. Comparing ourselves to others can be tricky because on one hand it can motivate us and on the other hand it can cause us to feel jealous, guilty and lead to negative behaviors. For example, the benefit of comparing ourselves could help motivate us to pursue a goal or improve a skill.
Typically when we compare ourselves to others, we do so in one of two ways - upward and downward. When we make upward comparisons, we focus on those we perceive as being better than us. This could be related to believing others' lives are more important or exciting than yours. When we make downward comparisons, we focus on others we perceive as having it worse off than us. I’m guessing at some point in your life you’ve made the statement, “Others have it worse than me, I shouldn’t complain”. With the rise of social media and constant exposure to others’ lives, it can have a negative affect on your self esteem and lead to depression or anxiety.
At the end of the day, you are your own person and need to focus on what is best for you:
You are great just the way you are!
Set goals for you, what do you want in your life?
Try your best to stay away from triggers that cause you to compare yourself to others.
Sources:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/social-comparison-theory
